Japan-aholic

A blog about culture and love in Japan


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Q&A on Intercultural Love (AMWF)

This month, I wrote a guest post for the awesome blog Madh Mama (go check it out!). The author, Alexandra, already had planned a questionnaire about my intercultural relationship with Hitomi. Here’s an excerpt of my answers!

How long have you been together?
We’ve just passed the 2 years mark! Still a young couple!

What qualities do you admire in your partner?
I like that he is so down to earth, because I’m a head-in-the-cloud kind of person, and it really helps me to have someone logical, organized, capable and wise beside me. He is the one who organizes our trips and dates, while asking for my opinion. It’s good for me, because I have a hard time organizing things!

I also like that he is not afraid of commitment and he’s very serious about everything he does – when he says he’ll do something, he will do it, no matter what. His promises are never a joke! I admire that a lot.

Favorite memory together as a couple…
I think that’s as hard as the question about my childhood! I’m tempted to say: our first kiss, or the first time he said “I love you”, or the first time I tried a kimono with him (a traditional Japanese clothing), because I cherish those memories deeply, but who doesn’t cherish that kind of memories? So instead, I’ll talk about one of those normal days where we just went bowling, then went to the movie theater to watched a (very bad) movie while eating nachos and popcorn, and after that went to a store similar to Ikea and tried all the most expensive couches and beds we could find, both knowing that we would probably never buy any of them in our entire lifetime. Even if it was a rainy day, we had so much fun! I think we should always cherish those kind of memories – those times where nothing extraordinary happened, but you were simply happy.

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The Downsides Of Long Distance Relationships (LDR)

Although I already wrote a post about long distance relationships and what it takes to make them work, I didn’t specify much on the things that can/will happen if you enter an LDR. After being two years in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend Hitomi, we’re somewhat “veterans” of LDR’s problems. Hitomi and I have been through a lot during those past years and it wasn’t always easy. Let me share with you the 5 most common problems you could encounter if you decide to give long distance relationships a try. Continue reading


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What It Takes For A Long Distance Relationship To Work (LDR)

If I could meet my two-years-ago self and tell her “You will be in a long distance relationship soon”, she would probably laugh at my face and tell me “Yeah right” while rolling her eyes. For me, LDRs (Long Distance Relationships) were never an option. I always thought “Nope! Not for me, thank you very much” and just brushed it off without a second thought. That’s why when I met Hitomi (my current boyfriend), I didn’t want to be in love with him — essentially because we were going to live about 10 000 km apart. But since love is something you just can’t fight against, it created a strange situation for the first months of our relationship. I thought there was no way I would go back in Canada and deal with a LDR. Funny how life turns out, right? Continue reading


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On Being Anxious About Moving Abroad For Love

Before we get started, I want to warn you all that this post is kinda personal. It will not give you any tips on living in Japan or words of encouragement with your LDR/AMWF relationship, but it might hit home for some.

Stories like a person moving to another country to be with their significant other and living a happy life together ever after are numerous and always seem perfect and romantic. Hollywood movies have feed us with those type of stories, the ones where nobody questions if what they are doing is right, because they just “know” it’s right, when they are with the right person, their “soulmate”. In those stories, having doubts is considered a huge red flag that something is wrong with the relationship.

I, on the other hand, am questioning myself. Continue reading


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10 Comments/Stereotypes I’m Tired Of Hearing (AMWF Relationship)

This is a touchy post. It took me a while before I decided to write about it, partly because, as a Caucasian woman dating an Asian man, it’s something I have to deal with almost everyday of my life and it makes me a bit sad/angry when I talk about it. I prefer writing about cool stuffs and happy moments, but this is also very important to me. Continue reading


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“What Is It Like to Date a Japanese Man?”

As weird as it sounds, I actually get the question “What is it like to date a Japanese/Asian man?” quite a lot. And I don’t really understand why.

I am a Canadian woman; my boyfriend Hitomi is a Japanese man. I was born in Quebec, which is a French province in Canada; he was born in the countryside of Chiba (Tokyo), where he speaks — obviously — Japanese. I am Caucasian and he is Asian, so by definition, that makes us an AMWF (Asian Male White Female) couple.

 

He is the first Asian man I ever dated, and I am the first foreigner (non-Japanese person) he has ever dated. Continue reading


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Missing Your Significant Other In A Long Distance Relationship

It’s not a secret, everybody knows this: the hardest part of any LDR (Long Distance Relationship) is that you miss the person you love. Sometimes, it’s not too bad; you just keep on living and try not think about the long distance too much. Your day might be going well, but then suddenly you smell your significant other’s scent somewhere, or you see a couple that is similar to yours holding hands, and that’s it. Continue reading