Japan-aholic

A blog about culture and love in Japan


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The Downsides Of Long Distance Relationships (LDR)

Although I already wrote a post about long distance relationships and what it takes to make them work, I didn’t specify much on the things that can/will happen if you enter an LDR. After being two years in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend Hitomi, we’re somewhat “veterans” of LDR’s problems. Hitomi and I have been through a lot during those past years and it wasn’t always easy. Let me share with you the 5 most common problems you could encounter if you decide to give long distance relationships a try. Continue reading


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What It Takes For A Long Distance Relationship To Work (LDR)

If I could meet my two-years-ago self and tell her “You will be in a long distance relationship soon”, she would probably laugh at my face and tell me “Yeah right” while rolling her eyes. For me, LDRs (Long Distance Relationships) were never an option. I always thought “Nope! Not for me, thank you very much” and just brushed it off without a second thought. That’s why when I met Hitomi (my current boyfriend), I didn’t want to be in love with him — essentially because we were going to live about 10 000 km apart. But since love is something you just can’t fight against, it created a strange situation for the first months of our relationship. I thought there was no way I would go back in Canada and deal with a LDR. Funny how life turns out, right? Continue reading


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On Being Anxious About Moving Abroad For Love

Before we get started, I want to warn you all that this post is kinda personal. It will not give you any tips on living in Japan or words of encouragement with your LDR/AMWF relationship, but it might hit home for some.

Stories like a person moving to another country to be with their significant other and living a happy life together ever after are numerous and always seem perfect and romantic. Hollywood movies have feed us with those type of stories, the ones where nobody questions if what they are doing is right, because they just “know” it’s right, when they are with the right person, their “soulmate”. In those stories, having doubts is considered a huge red flag that something is wrong with the relationship.

I, on the other hand, am questioning myself. Continue reading


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Missing Your Significant Other In A Long Distance Relationship

It’s not a secret, everybody knows this: the hardest part of any LDR (Long Distance Relationship) is that you miss the person you love. Sometimes, it’s not too bad; you just keep on living and try not think about the long distance too much. Your day might be going well, but then suddenly you smell your significant other’s scent somewhere, or you see a couple that is similar to yours holding hands, and that’s it. Continue reading